A Girl Like Her

I am a born romantic.

Though I never did like watching or reading many sappy or mushy stories, I believed in such cavalierly experiences of finding the girl that I would love for the rest of my life. I would definitely have no second thoughts of growing old with her.

So I closed my eyes for a moment and dreamed about my ideal girl.

First of all, she would have to be beautiful, for there should be an attraction that is physical. I usually look first at the eyes, because I like eyes that are quite mysterious yet full of eloquence. I want to be able to look at her and gaze at those windows to her soul. Then I would look at her face, which should neither be too angelic to be deceptive nor too strong to be repulsive. I also want her to be really simple in her fashion, though not sacrificing the way she would like to dress herself up. Plus, being slim to average build would be a bonus because I am extremely attracted to those types of gals. I am not that down with the chubby types since I find it quite un-sexy. But I’m not aiming either for those model types, since it would be far-fetched for me to draw their attention. I just like her to be just right, physically. Kind of being cute, pretty, and certainly exotic.

Second, she should be charming, witty, and interesting. I am a bit of a conversationalist, and I love to talk about many particular things so she should be able to hold her ground. It would be better if she were quite opinionated, since I like learning and understanding different views apart from mine. But she should also be wacky and loose in order to lighten up the mood sometimes. Having a sense of humor is definitely a plus. I find it attractive too, when she reads a lot and dabbles in the arts. It means that she has a room full of ideas and insights that I might find rather enriching. And it would be a real blessing if she plays any musical instruments. But I guess it would just be fine if she has many interests that I find fascinating like sports, music, literature, and philosophy. And it would really be great if she knows how to have some fun in many ways.

Third, she should have a wider understanding of things, meaning she should be the “been there, done that” type. Being too innocent is very scary since it entails unwanted curiosity. She should be mature enough to know that being in a relationship is not just all hanky-panky. And that she should know that having problems would mean there is room for patience, understanding, and compromise. She should be independent enough to think for her own but not too much, since she would be rebellious and sarcastic. I want her to be have an image of her own, to have an identity apart from me. But she should also have that certain sense of feminine affection to admit being helpless at times. I want her also to have a very positive outlook in life, wherein she almost always sees the bright side of things in order to weather out any storms between us.

And last, but not definitely the least, she should know what love really is. That having a boyfriend is not just a fad or an experiment. That loving should never be solely based on her feelings, but also on having that decision to commit and share her life with me. And that in her own little way, she knows how to love with all her heart and be very able to back it up with her actions. But the bottom line here is that like me, she should be a romantic person amidst the swirling disillusionment around.

Well, maybe this is really too much for me to ask or to expect from someone, but then, I think at least I know what I really want. I don’t want to settle for anything but a better girl in my life. This time, I don’t want to be just in a relationship for the sake of having one. I yearn for a more mature yet livelier partnership that I think I could handle and foster for a very long time. I’m not a hunk or a prince charming or Mr. Right, but I can say that I am someone who has what it takes to love somebody for real and for keeps. If you want more proof, I’ll send you my résumé.

But for now, I’m just looking for a girl like her. Maybe I’ll find her, maybe not.